Is Your Partner Your Best Friend? ON SEX

 

Unable to resist, unable to hold firm, I plunge into the forbidding void between us, into the carnal promise of your waiting flesh, into the words spoken, screamed and whispered, into the words etched not only on my mind but also on the body, the body of this desire, this dangerous want, this feminine passion as it lives and breathes, as it tears me to easy shreds from within, as it dances on the trembling surface, taunting, inciting, leading my hands in their need to clutch, to slither underneath, to glide along the hot and slick and aching velvet, to finger the sex moaning your name in a vain attempt of replication, an imitation of your sequinned touch.

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“Both partners were living separate lives before they met, and it’s important to still have maintain some friendships and some space between the couple,” she explains. She also warns that getting too comfortable with your spouse as your BFF might put a damper on things in the bedroom.

“There should definitely be a foundation of a great friendship in a romantic relationship,” she says. “But being ‘best friends‘ might also impact your sexual desire for your partner.”

So if you happen to be unlike me and have a BFF who is not your spouse, Dr. Needle claims that you’re on the best track. “Every couple is different of course,” she claims. “But in general, it is good to maintain close friendships and a “best” friend outside of just your spouse!”

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It had always been a running joke with my partner about having a threesome and he always wanted to have sex with another woman. I always went along with it thinking it would never actually happen, until one day.

He decided to ask my best friend if she would be interested and to my horror she said yes.

Stupidly I still thought it would never happen even though it was brought up a few times and when I was asked about it I would say “maybe after the baby’s born” as I was pregnant with our second child at the time.

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It is a very common question, “How can I tell I’m in love?”, but it is not an easy question to answer. What feels like love to one person may be nothing more than attraction to another. Some people fall in and out of love quickly and often while others are never really in love as much as they are in lust. This can get confusing when you are a teen because romantic love is a relatively new concept for you and you don’t know what to expect. You are overwhelmed with all sorts of new feelings and social pressures. They are confusing. What is love? What makes you want a romantic relationship with one person and not another? One of the most confusing quasi-love feelings is lust. Lust is a very powerful, very intense feeling of physical attraction toward another person. Lust is mainly sexual in nature – the attraction is superficial based on instant chemistry rather than genuine caring. Usually we lust after people we do not know well, people we still feel comfortable fantasizing about. It is very common for people to confuse lust for love. But why? What is it about lust and love that make them so easy to mix up? If lust is all about sex, how can a relationship without sex be about lust? Teens struggle with this because they see lust in the Biblical sense, but lust isn’t that sinister. Lust is about physical attraction and acting ONLY on physical attraction. Love is about much more than that. Yet many teens (and to be fair, many adults) confuse an intense attraction for some sort if divine love. For teens, since feelings of attraction are still new and since pop-culture sells sex and love as one package, it is very easy to get the two mixed up.

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It is a very common question, “How can I tell I’m in love?”, but it is not an easy question to answer. What feels like love to one person may be nothing more than attraction to another. Some people fall in and out of love quickly and often while others are never really in love as much as they are in lust. This can get confusing when you are a teen because romantic love is a relatively new concept for you and you don’t know what to expect. You are overwhelmed with all sorts of new feelings and social pressures. They are confusing. What is love? What makes you want a romantic relationship with one person and not another? How does your heart choose a partner? Why does love end? These questions can’t be easily answered.

One of the most confusing quasi-love feelings is lust. Lust is a very powerful, very intense feeling of physical attraction toward another person. Lust is mainly sexual in nature – the attraction is superficial based on instant chemistry rather than genuine caring. Usually we lust after people we do not know well, people we still feel comfortable fantasizing about. It is very common for people to confuse lust for love. But why? What is it about lust and love that make them so easy to mix up? If lust is all about sex, how can a relationship without sex be about lust? Teens struggle with this because they see lust in the Biblical sense, but lust isn’t that sinister. Lust is about physical attraction and acting ONLY on physical attraction. Love is about much more than that. Yet many teens (and to be fair, many adults) confuse an intense attraction for some sort if divine love. For teens, since feelings of attraction are still new and since pop-culture sells sex and love as one package, it is very easy to get the two mixed up.

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It’s frustrating for the guy too, because when he meets you, he wants nothing more than for the two of you to get on. He wants to spend time with you. He wants amazing things to happen for you both. He’s actually your biggest fan. He believes in you more than anyone does, but he can’t be your emotional crutch. After three to six months, you’ve worn him out emotionally. He can’t do it anymore. He can’t keep rallying you every day. It takes away from his life. It’s draining. He starts to feel your pain because he loves you, and he wants you to be happy. Your self-destructive behavior is ruining your relationships. You need to work on yourself, and your happiness before you can expect someone else to love you. I’m sure you’ve read the books, and maybe even you’ve gone to therapy. But how many of you have quit when the going got tough?

You see, I truly believe every single one of you can have the life (and the partner) you want. I believe each of you can experience the love you need, want, desire, and deserve. And I believe you can end this negative dating cycle. You can end the frustration of being with a great man for three to six months, until the whole thing comes crashing around you.

Your true self is that beautiful, loving, incredible woman the man sees and believes in. But you need to start seeing it too. You need to be able to embrace that. You need to take the steps necessary to work on yourself before you look for love. The steps might be difficult, but you can form new habits in just 30 days. It doesn’t take as long as you think.

Think about the last few relationships you’ve had. Look at what each man has taught you, and then say to yourself, “I can already attract beautiful men. Now I need to work on myself, so I can avoid making the same mistakes that cost me those men. I need to learn the lessons, and start celebrating the small wins every day.”

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